7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

Habit 6

Habit 6: Synergize

 

Synergy is achieved when two or more people work together to create something better than either could alone. Through this habit, teens learn it doesn’t have to be “your way” or “my way” but rather a better way, a higher way. Synergy is the reward, the delicious fruit you’ll taste as you get better way, a higher way. Synergy allows teens to value differences and better appreciate others. Synergy is the reward, the delicious fruit you’ll taste as you get better at living the other habits, especially at thinking Win-Win and seeking first to understand. Learning to synergize is like learning to form V formations with others instead of trying to fly through life solo. You’ll be amazed at how much faster and farther you’ll go. Synergy doesn’t just happen. It’s a process. You have to get there. And the foundation of getting there is this: Learn to celebrate differences.

A good band is a great example of synergy. It’s not just the drums, or the guitar, or the sax, or the vocalist, it’s all of them together that make up the “sound.” Each band member brings his or her strengths to the table to create something better than each could alone. No instrument is more important than another, just different.

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Student Success Statement

 

“So often, in our quest to be more popular and to be part of the “in-group,” We lose sight of things that are far more important.”

-Sean Covey

 

If you are just trying to be “cool” or trying to fit in, you will lose sight of the righteous path you are in, you have to keep your eyes on prize, make sure you know what your goal is and not let unimportant things get in the way of you reaching that goal, make sure your goals are righteous, not something stupid like out drinking on of your friends, because that is CTW, CTR and keep your sight (eyes) on the prize!

7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

Habit 5

5. Seek First to Understand, and then to be Understood

Because most people don’t listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is that many don’t feel understood. This habit will ensure your teen learns the most important communication skill there is: active listening.

Why is this habit key to communication? It’s because the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are- a unique, one-of-a-kind, never-to-be-cloned individual. People won’t expose their soft middles unless they feel genuine love and understanding. Once they feel it, however, they will tell you more than you may want to hear. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.

Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears. 7 percent of communication is contained in the words we use. The rest comes from body language (53 percent) and how we say words, or the tone and feeling reflected in our voice (40 percent). Most people are eager to talk and had rather talk than listen. We have on mouth and two ears. This means we should listen twice as much as we talk. We actually learn more while listening rather than when we talk. Learn to listen and listen to learn. Listen, really listen, for understanding. Seek first to understand then to be understood- LISTEN.

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Habit 4

4. Think Win-Win

Teens can learn to foster the belief that it is possible to create an atmosphere of Win-Win in everyday relationship. This habit encourages the idea that in any given discussion or situation both parties can arrive at a mutually beneficial solution. Your teen will learn to celebrate the accomplishments of others instead of being threatened by them. Win-Win is a belief that everyone can win. It’s both nice and though all at once I won’t step on you but I won’t be your doormat either. You care about other people and you want them to succeed. But you also care about yourself, and you want to succeed as well. Win-Win is abundant. It is the belief that there’s plenty of success to go around. It’s not either you or me. It’s both of us. It’s not a matter of who gets the biggest piece of the pie. There’s more than enough food for everyone. It’s an all-you-can-eat buffet.

                Win-win always creates more. Perhaps the most surprising benefit of thinking Win-Win is the good feelings it brings on. The true test of whether or not you are thinking Win-Win or one of the alternatives is how you feel. Win-Lose and Lose-Win thinking will cloud your judgment and fill you with negative feelings.

                Win-Win will fill your heart with happy and serene thoughts. It will give you confidence. Even fill you with light. Think Win-Win or no deal.

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Student Success Statement

 

“You cannot do wrong and feel right. It is impossible”

-Ezra T. Benson

 

It is impossible to not feel guilty or feel good when you do something wrong, it is not morally possible. Because we all have a conscious, and that conscious will bug and bug and won’t stop bugging you if you choose the wrong. You will feel morally bad for a very long time if you do the wrong; feel right, by choosing the RIGHT.

 

7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

Habit 3

Habit 3: Put First Things First

Habit three is about Will and Will Not power. This habit helps teen prioritize and manage their time so that they focus on and complete the most important things in their lives. Putting first things first also means learning to overcome fears and being strong during difficult times. It’s living life according to what matters most. Putting first deals with things that are:

Important or not important, urgent or not urgent. Let’s look at the four quadrant of time management.

Quadrant 1: Things that are Important and Urgent

Quadrant 2: Things that are Important but not Urgent

Quadrant 3: Things that are Not Important but are Urgent

Quadrant 4: Things that are not Important and Not Urgent

1.       Important & Urgent	2.       Important but not Urgent
3.       Not Important but are Urgent	4.       Not Important and Not Urgent

 

Quadrant 2 is the ideal place to spend our time, doing things that are important but not urgent. Here’s where priorities come into play. The results for living Quadrant 2 are:

1.       Control of your life

2.       Balance

3.       High Performance

 

So, in what quadrant are you spending most of your time? The key is to shift as much time as possible into Quadrant 2 and this is accomplished by planning. Spend more time planning and incorporating the most important things first, things that matter most. Keep your eyes on the prize and reach for it.

 

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                                                 Student Success Statement       

 

“The only difference between those who have failed and those who have succeeded lies in the difference of their habits. Good habits are the key to all success. Bad habits are the unlocked door to failure, thus, the first law I will obey, which precedeth all others is- ‘I will form good habits and become their slaves.’ ”

-OG Mandino

Good habits are important, as is succeeding for the right reasons. If you have good habits you are more likely to be successful because those goods habits are the ones that will help lead and push you to be successful.

For example,

You have an appointment for a job interview at 6 am in the morning.

You have a good habit of sleeping early therefore you wake up early as well. You sleep at 9:30 PM and wake up at 5:30 AM, this is a good habit that will help you be successful because of this habit you will most likely be on time to your job interview.

Now for a negative example, let’s say you are used to staying awake until 12Am playing video games and are used to waking up at 11 Am, This is a bad habit that will be counterproductive and you will most likely miss your job interview because of this habit, therefore crushing the chances of you getting that job that could of led to you being successful in life in a prosperous way.

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